The First Weeks
The acute stretch, when everything feels urgent and almost none of it is. What genuinely has to be handled this week, what can wait until next month, and how to say it out loud to the people who need to hear it.
The First 90 Days After a Divorce or Breakup: What to Handle, and When
What to handle in the first 90 days after a divorce or breakup: the few things that are urgent, the paperwork with real deadlines, and what can safely wait.
10 min readShould You Move Out? What to Settle Before Anyone Leaves
Should you move out during a separation? Why it is a legal question before a comfort one, what to ask a lawyer first, and what to take if you do go.
10 min readHow to Tell Your Children About a Divorce or Separation
How to tell your children about a divorce: when to do it, what has to be said, what to leave out, and what they will ask afterwards. Sourced, not scripted.
11 min readAm I Ruining My Kids by Getting Divorced?
Am I ruining my kids by getting divorced? What the research bodies say, why conflict matters more than the split, and what is genuinely in your control.
10 min readWhen Your Child Does Not Want to Come to Your House
Your child does not want to come to your house. The five different reasons behind it, what to do at the exchange, and the word this piece will not use.
11 min readDivorce With a Toddler: What Changes When They Are Too Young to Ask
Divorce with a toddler: what researchers still disagree about on overnights, why regression is not a verdict, and how to explain it to a three-year-old.
11 min readDivorce With Teenagers: When They Have Opinions and You Do Not Have All the Answers
Divorce with teenagers: what a 14 year old's say actually means legally, the FAFSA rule that changed, and why the schedule becomes a negotiation at this age.
12 min readThe First Month as a Single Parent: Every System That Used to Take Two
The first month as a single parent is a systems problem before it is an emotional one. Mornings, meals, sick days, bedtime: the minimum version of each.
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Something to use at this stage
Checklist and Planner
Every practical task after a separation, grouped by stage and broken into steps, with room for the things only you would write down.
It counts paperwork rather than progress, and nothing is timed. Kept on your device, sent nowhere.